The Christmas Conundrum

December is here. Christmas is only five days away as I am writing this. My hope is you all have your shopping done and everything wrapped. We are officially done, well almost. A car that would not start took over the garage so one final gift could not be finished until today. I am a procrastinator, so I am usually finishing up right about now. Not exactly a good plan for someone whose sensory issues are triggered by crowds!

Christmas is an interesting time for us. This year Darlene and I had to have a discussion I never thought about. What do we do with Santa? I know, in the church world this is a topic that often creates disagreement and tension. My thought is to let kids be kids. Children need to have a good imagination and a sense of wonder. I also see how we can take the myth of Santa Clause and turn it around to create an opportunity to talk about the gift of Christ. So in our house we have run with the Santa thing.

This year we had the realization that Ben is old enough to recognize that Daniel does not have a “Santa” gift. Now, Super D has been the exception once the older boys realized the truth. I am not sure he understands the who thing, and even if he does, unwrapping presents is not his thing. Christmas gifts are too much sensory input for him. I am going on the idea that Ben will not notice what Daniel gets.

This year also brought on something I had not thought through before. We were shopping on Black Friday when my mom found a gift for Daniel, but was worried it looked too much like a baby toy. In the end she found the exact thing she wanted, but it made me think about age vs developmentally appropriate gifts. In reality this is an easy one, it is better to get developmentally appropriate gifts that he will play with, enjoy and understand.

If only it was that simple. I’ll admit, while it is best for Super D, buying a gift intended for a five year old for a eleven year old creates a little struggle inside. It is not a bad thing. It is, however, a gentle reminder he is not like his peers, or his siblings. Perhaps it is harder this year because middle school is eight months away. Maybe my subconscious has just suppressed it until now.

These realizations are not a bad thing. Daniel is not like every other child his age, and that is a wonderful thing. One of the buddies at church described him as a big teddy bear. He is super lovable and sweet. He also has an ornery streak a mile wide that can send me over the edge in the blink of an eye. The reality is, that is very normal behavior for a fifth grade boy! Moments like the gift realization are blessings that put the “normal” behavior into perspective which creates joy and not just frustration or anger. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Consider it a great joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you experience various trials, because you know that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its full effect, so that you may be mature and complete, lacking nothing.
James 1:2-4